Model of the world signifies an individual’s beliefs and values and learnings about the world. Each of us has our own individual bar code, our own internal map of what is real or not.
We have our unique world model through which we perceive and understand the happenings around us. Our world model is composed of many components. Here in this blog, I will be sharing with you 02 out of 06, the most essential elements characterizing our world models as suggested in the book, Strategic Family Therapy by Cloe Madanes.
1. Our core beliefs
2. Our key decisions
The first component comprises the Beliefs That Limit Us:
We all have a system of beliefs. What is impressive is that the greater part of us never deliberately set this framework up. It has been downloaded to us over the years from our parents, teachers, peers, and the general culture.
These beliefs direct our decisions and shape our behaviors towards everything around us, including our family, work, and community. Asking the right questions is the key to becoming aware of a person’s belief system, hence knowing the person’s world model.
The one question that I feel can profoundly enable understanding a person’s belief system is by asking what life is according to him/her? Some people will answer that life is a race. We all have heard this phrase in the movie, Three Idiots, haven’t we? If a person thinks that life is just a race, they will likewise be thinking to excel throughout everyday life and never really reflecting and enjoying the moment at all. They will consistently be pursuing attaining better grades in education or securing more enormous salaries because, for them, life is mainly about winning and losing OR pass and fail. Such individuals will mostly be afraid of failure.
Here is a drill for all those reading this blog – ask yourself:
What is life for you? And note down your answers with yourself that “Life is …….”; and I assure you will learn a great deal from your answer about yourself.
To conclude on this point, this is something I want you to read carefully: Many people have noticed me saying this “change your story, change your life,” but now I also say, “change the metaphor, you will change your model of the world, hence your story.” We must understand the metaphors that we link to our lives, and the stories determine all the transformations in our living. There is a big difference between saying “Life is a game” and “Life is suffering.”
The second component of the world model comprises the key decisions:
We make many decisions during our lives’ early or primitive years. Let me quote you an example from the book.
“Often, decisions that are made early in childhood persist into adulthood, long after they have become obsolete, and interfere with our relationships and our happiness. A man might decide as a boy that boys do not cry, and in blocking his tears might block all his vulnerability and sensitivity. When it is time to be sensitive to his wife and his children, he may not be able to do it.”
People take learnings and make decisions that repress and block certain areas of their personality while developing others. But one must understand that what may work to survive during one phase of life often becomes redundant during another stage of life and impedes constructing healthy relationships. So think about it: what is the key decision you made in your life? It may be about a job decision that you took way back, and now it is controlling every aspect of your life. As students/practitioners of NLP, you can change all of the answers and key decisions effectively by carefully implementing the interventions of Time Line Therapy.
TIME LINE THERAPY:
Your ‘Time Line’ is how you unconsciously store your memories or how you unconsciously know the difference between a memory from the past and a projection of the future. Behavioural change in an individual takes place at an unconscious level. People don’t change consciously. The Time Line Therapy process allows you to work at the unconscious level and release the effects of past negative experiences and change “inappropriate” programming in minutes rather than days, months or years.
Time Line Therapy is a collection of techniques that allow you to gain emotional control over your life.
So think about it: What critical decision did you take as a child which still stops you from creating the life you deserve?
If you want to know more about the components of our world models, wait for the next part.